TEMPERAMENT: THE MOST POWERFUL INFLUENCE IN A PERSON’S LIFE
Knowledge is an important thing in life. Knowing yourself helps not only in developing yourself but also in developing a good and healthy interpersonal relationship. FOLASHADE ADEYEYE, a socio psychologist shares with us on Temperament: a major factor that influence interpersonal relationship while being interviewed by FEHINTOLA ONIFADE of AMEBO NEWSPAPER
AMEBO NEWSPAPER: Can you introduce yourself briefly?
FOLASHADE ADEYEYE: My name is FOLASHADE ADEYEYE as you already know. I’m a socio psychologist by profession.
AMEBO NEWSPAPER: Can you please tell us what temperament is all about?
FOLASHADE ADEYEYE: Temperament simply means one’s nature or character. It is the combination of traits we inherited from our parents. It is one of the factors that make us unique from other human beings. This is shown or reflected in the way we behave or react to situations or people. Temperament influences everything a person does, from sleep habits to study habits to eating style to the way you get along with people. It is the most powerful influence in a person’s life.
AMEBO NEWSPAPER: Ma, why did you say temperament is the most powerful influence in a person’s life? Do I need to know about temperaments?
FOLASHADE ADEYEYE: It is essential to know about temperament; your own temperament first and then other people’s temperament. It is essential because temperaments defines or explains why you act the way you do. Temperament is the most powerful influence in a person’s life because it is largely responsible for our actions, reactions, emotional responses and almost everything you do. There is hardly a function in life that is not influenced by temperament. It is only when you know about temperament that you can understand yourself better, relate well with people and understand other people’s temperament. This will also help you to maximize your potentials and enable other to maximize theirs.
AMEBO NEWSPAPER: Can we know what these temperaments are?
FOLASHADE ADEYEYE: The temperament theory was conceived by Hippocrates more than 2000 years ago and he divides people into four major categories which are: Sanguine, Melancholy, Choleric and Phlegmatic. For short, san, mel, chlo and phleg. Each of these temperaments has both strength and weaknesses and there are differing degrees of these temperaments.
AMEBO NEWSPAPER: Can we have an insight into each of these temperaments?
FOLASHADE ADEYEYE: I will try and make it as brief as possible. Sanguine are warm, buoyant, loving, confident lively, enjoying and outgoing persons. They are usually referred to as extroverts. They have an unusual capacity for enjoying themselves and they pass on this spirit to people around them. They lift up the spirit of everybody present wherever they are with lively conversation, they are friendly so they have lots of friends. A sanguine makes his decision based on feelings and not on reflective thoughts. Sanguine are undisciplined, emotionally unstable, egocentric. Exaggerates and lots more. People have a way of excusing sanguine weaknesses because of their lovable disposition.
Melancholy is the richest of all the temperaments; they are analytical, self sacrificing, gifted, industrious, self disciplined, and perfectionist. They are faithful friends but unlike the sanguine, they don’t make friends easily. They seldom make the first move to meet people but rather, people come to them. By nature, they are prone to be extroverts but they have mood swings. They find it difficult to express their true feeling, so people around them take it as an indication that they don’t enjoy people. They also have very sensitive emotional nature and they are revengeful, touchy, unsociable and negative.
Cholerics are hot, quick, active, practical, strong willed, self sufficient, independent, decisive, sarcastic, cruel, opinionated. They find it easy to make decisions for both themselves and others. A choleric thrives on activities, he stimulate his environment and is encouraged by challenges. Cholerics don’t sympathize easily with others, find it hard to show or express compassion. They are insensitive to others needs, domineering, bossy. They also use people to accomplish their goals and they act instantly without deep thought. They are introverts and regarded to as opportunists
Phlegmatics are calm, easy going, kind hearted, sympathetic, fearful, fine imitators, natural peacemakers, procrastinator, self protective, unmotivated, indecisive, never-get-upset individuals with high boiling points that they rarely get angry. They have good and retentive minds, natural dry sense of humor, enjoy people and like melancholy, they are also extroverts. They are easy to get along with and by nature, they are the most likeable of all the temperaments. They are consistent, cool, reticent, sometimes timid and are never agitated no matter the circumstances. They tend to avoid getting involved in activities but rather they like to watch things happen. When they are aroused to action, their capable and efficient quality becomes apparent.
There is more to temperament than the things I just talked about but I guess this is a good summary.
AMEBO NEWSPAPER: Thanks for this expository talk but is it possible for a person to have more than one temperament?
FOLASHADE ADEYEYE: Yes, it is possible. You can have a blend of two temperaments; one predominates that is primary while the other is secondary. For instance, you can have a blend of phlegmatic and melancholy
AMEBO NEWSPAPER: Since each of these temperaments has its weaknesses and strength, what can I do to make people accept my weaknesses?
FOLASHADE ADEYEYE: The good thing about this temperament issue is that once you have identified your temperaments that is who you really are, you can maintain your strengths and work on your weaknesses. You can work on your weaknesses if you are determined and turn them to strengths.
AMEBO NEWSPAPER: How do I apply the knowledge of this temperament to my relationship with others and everyday life?
FOLASHADE ADEYEYE: If you know yourself and understand yourself, you will know what you can do best. Your understanding of temperaments will help you to understand people better especially people that are close to you and help you to relate well and get along well with people. In other words, it helps you to accept yourself, accept others, improve yourself and your interpersonal relationships. Knowing about the four temperaments also helps you to educate others and manage others. You can also apply the knowledge in business. The list is endless.
AMEBO NEWSPAPER: Thank you ma for this eye opening information.
FOLASHADE ADEYEYE: you are welcome.